Wow, time really flies. Jan would turn 4mths coming Sunday. It also means the end of my maternity leave and returning back to work. I haven’t been blogging much only because. I’ve been trying to train her into Gina ford’s schedule. It wasn’t easy for sure. There were lots of crying because I’m trying to train her to drink and sleep at certain timings and for a certain time. I must say, it was super tiring and heartbreaking for my husband and I to see her cry like that. We are also very fortunate that we don’t stay with any of our parents because they definitely wouldn’t make scheduling possible.
As the title goes… Time flies. Baby Jan is already 3mths 1 day old. When I first blogged about her, she was only about 6 or 7 weeks old, and now, she is already 3mths old with a stronger neck and with plenty of expressions.
As a first time mom, I have heeded everyone’s advice to get swaddle cloth because that helps to soothe the baby, however, after trying out ergococoon, I think for my next kid, I would definitely choose ergococoon.
Swaddle cloth experience – As many of you would have known, I’ve got a really fussy baby. She cries non stop. It is especially daunting for me when it comes to swaddling her because she would kick and kick so much so that I thought that swaddling her is unnecessary because she hates it (taking the cue from her kicks). I haven’t had the ability to calm her to sleep. I was then told by a friend that no matter what they need to be swaddled in order to feel secure. And so, I started the swaddle journey. Note: I stopped swaddling her at 5weeks after confinement lady leaves because I simply thought that she hates to be swaddled because her hands are not freed, like claustrophobic but I was obviously wrong.
I must say I’m very bad at swaddling. My husband swaddle the baby much than me. I find it hard to swaddle nicely for her, so I have literally given up swaddling her leaving it to the husband to do it. He is really smooth with it. We used swaddle cloth and I always make such a mess that my husband would always finish the job for me. Until I had the ergococoon. I’ve had some friends using it as a sleeping bag more than explaining to me that it acts as a convenient swaddle. I had the opportunity to review ergococoon by mymiraclebaby and I have since been using it for a couple of days. I must say, I am all in for ergococoon now.
So… Since the last post I’ve been busy schedule training my baby. It was really tough at the beginning to follow strictly to the book. It was especially tough especially the day routine i.e. The nap times, to keep her awake and not allowing her to fall asleep as and when she wants to. There were several cries that were heartbreaking and made me want to just give up. I’m thankful for having a husband who works from home and has been helping me manage my expectations.
There were some disagreements like how flexible we should be. For example, my husband thinks that we shouldn’t follow strictly to the book because the baby can’t adjust just yet or the baby is too young (I started the training at 6weeks old). I, on the other hand, believe that we just follow by the rules and adjust later if it doesn’t work. It took us Abt 2-3 days to come to terms and I am fortunate that he gave in to my stubborn way to follow strictly first. In my opinion, if I don’t follow strictly, I wouldn’t know what to adjust if I were to start off with flexibility first. So, you can imagine, the baby was extremely irritable and unhappy due to strict sleeping and drinking time.
Routines for babies are great because things are more predictable. I’ve been reading Gina ford’s contented little baby, and she is a believer of routine and schedules so that life as a parent would be easier. However, when the routine is not a good routine, it actually worries me more.
My baby is kind of having same routine of fussing at the same timing, fussing even though she is being fed. Confinement period is ending soon and the confinement lady would soon be returning home. I am indeed getting a little anxious about how I am going to handle this fussy baby. I am sure I can get through this but it can get frustrating when she isn’t calmed.
I was advised by many friends who are mothers that babies have good and bad days. I remembered being very frantic when it comes to dealing with babies. I was taught if they cry, it would be 3 reasons:
- They are hungry (which is the most common one)
- Dirty diaper (which is another common one)
- Colicky (difficult to detect)
I think entering into motherhood is a lifelong learning journey and there are lots of decisions to be made. One of those would be bottle feeding. When should we give the bottle? How many feeds do we give bottle? Which feed should we feed bottle? Would bottle feeding slow my milk supply? Would baby prefer bottle instead of latching? So many questions. Honestly, I have no answers too.
But like most mothers and I’m sure it is quite a common knowledge or understanding that during the 1st mth, infants shouldn’t be fed bottle so that they are not confused with nipples and teats. Like my friends, they introduce bottles really soon and has the luxury of not tiring themselves because babies drink faster from bottles than from latching. However, I have friends as well, the babies just refused the bottle. I’ve got a friend who even resorted to leaving the home to make baby hungry so that the father could feed the bottle but the baby chose to be hungry and waited for the mum to be back. All these I’ve heard before I gave birth.